Describe your ideal week.
There is no such thing as an ideal week for me. My life is too up and down to predict. What I do know is that an ideal week is spent balanced between my close friends/family and my writing. Enough isolation to satisfy me because my friends remind me why I don’t want it. I’ve had some incredible experiences over the last couple of days. It is a combination of things, mostly being able to say yes to things I said no to previously; it had the potential to make me avoid feeling bad about myself, and Timeless Children don’t do that. If there is blame to be had anywhere, we’ll find it. That is because we are used to being the cause of conflict because our abusers have told us that if we say anything, we will be. We don’t do it to protect us. That’s a side effect. We do it to protect you because we know you’re the adult and we’re not. You’ll be believed and we won’t.
I write to avoid a lot of that stuff because I don’t have the bandwidth to think about relationships on that level all the time, and I don’t pay as much attention to relationships in which I’m not in tune. I know when I’m not, I can sense it by the other person’s energy. Writing causes isolation and it feeds me, so I lose track of the world around me. It’s using my mental illness for fun and profit, really. I’ll never be The Bloggess, but there is a solid chance I’ll be Leslie Lanagan.
I put down my worries for a while and went to a bar that had an arcade with Zac, who then proceeded to treat me to Chinese-Peruvian fusion in a restaurant he was flabbergasted I didn’t know because it was a Jose Andres…. and I’d said that I love any excuse to throw Jose some money. Picking that restaurant in particular was part of the gift. It was eating amazing food, and supporting World Central Kitchen, which I believe is right up there with Doctors Without Borders in terms of reputation.
Today I’ve been shopping around on Amazon because I got a gift certificate. I ended up with a henley and three long-sleeved t-shirts because they’re essential in the fall. I basically spend all winter dressed like Sheldon from “The Big Bang Theory.”
I saw a t-shirt with a hammer and sickle that said “totally not a Russian spy” and I thought about it. I’ll have plenty of time to think it over in the future because Amazon will remind me I looked at that t-shirt once a week until I’m dead.
Tonight, Lindsay is taking me out to dinner (a bonus birthday gift because we’re going to a concert at the end of next month). She’s staying in Falls Church, Virginia, so we’re trying to work out where. I am just glad that I am getting a second night out in a row. I’m not sure that’s happened in years. I like it, because my appetite is suppressed most of the time and I eat more when other people are eating with me. Eating and drinking are very much alike that way. Not as much fun to eat or drink alone, whether it’s the glass of wine together after the kids are in bed or the coffee together before they wake up.
Those are the moments I live for with my friends, because the conversation is generally more intimate and I don’t do well with small talk. It doesn’t register, so I stop paying attention. The friends I love the most feel free to say whatever they want, when they want. That’s because they allow me the same courtesy.
It’s what makes every week an ideal week. I always have room to be me.
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