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The Machines That Made Me

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Daily writing prompt
Describe an item you were incredibly attached to as a youth. What became of it?
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Most people can point to a childhood toy or a favorite book as the object that shaped them. I can point to a beige computer tower — unbranded, unremarkable, and, in hindsight, the most influential object of my youth. It didn’t sit in the living room like a shared appliance. It lived on my desk, in my room, humming softly in the corner like a secret I had been entrusted with. It was mine — my first private studio, my first portal, my first world.

It wasn’t sleek or cute or designed to be photographed. It was a box of parts, a Frankenstein of components someone assembled because that’s how home computing worked back then. And yet, that beige tower became the first place I learned to build worlds.

I didn’t know it at the time, but that machine was quietly rewiring my brain. It was teaching me how to think, how to troubleshoot, how to create, and how to navigate systems that didn’t care about my feelings. It was the first object I ever loved that wasn’t alive.

The First Portal

My earliest memories of computing are tactile. The clatter of the dot‑matrix printer. The perforated edges of Print Shop banners. The soft click of a 5.25″ floppy sliding into place. The slightly smug solidity of the newer 3.5″ disks. The ritual of labeling everything with a Sharpie because if you lost a disk, you lost a universe.

But the most important detail is this: all of this happened in my room. Not in a shared space. Not under supervision. Not as a family activity. It was me, the machine, and the quiet hum of possibility.

I learned Print Shop before I learned how to type properly. I made banners for no reason other than the fact that I could. Endless chains of pixelated letters stretched across my bedroom floor like digital streamers. It felt like magic — not the sleek, frictionless magic of modern tech, but the clunky, mechanical magic of a machine that needed coaxing.

Then came Paint, where I learned the joy of the pixel. The brush tool felt like a revelation. Undo felt like a superpower. I didn’t know it then, but I was learning the fundamentals of digital art: layering, color, composition, the patience to zoom in and fix a single pixel because it mattered.

WordPerfect was my first writing room. Blue screen, white letters, a blinking cursor that felt like it was waiting for me specifically. Word came later, but WordPerfect taught me the rhythm of typing my thoughts into existence. It taught me that writing wasn’t just something you did on paper — it could live inside a machine.

And then there were the games. The Oregon Trail wasn’t just entertainment; it was a worldview. It taught me resource management, risk assessment, and the existential dread of dysentery long before adulthood delivered its own versions. It also taught me that computers could simulate entire worlds, and that those worlds could feel strangely real.

A Pre‑Internet Childhood

I grew up computing without the internet, which is almost unimaginable now. My computer was an island. Everything I learned, I learned alone, inside the machine. There were no tutorials, no forums, no YouTube walkthroughs. If you didn’t know how to do something, you figured it out or you didn’t do it.

Software arrived in the mail. PC Magazine would send shareware disks like gifts from a distant kingdom. You’d slide the disk in, hold your breath, and hope it didn’t crash the system. Discovery was tactile. Exploration was slow. Every new program felt like a treasure.

And because the computer was in my room, this exploration felt private, almost sacred. It was a space where I could experiment without judgment, fail without witnesses, and learn without interruption.

This solitude shaped me. It taught me patience. It taught me curiosity. It taught me that technology wasn’t something to fear — it was something to explore. And it taught me that the machine would only give back what I put into it.

The Directory‑Tree Mind

Growing up on DOS meant learning to think in hierarchies. I didn’t “open files.” I descended into directories. I built mental maps of my system the way other kids memorized the layout of their neighborhoods.

Most people today save everything to the desktop because the desktop is the only space they understand. But I grew up in a world where the desktop didn’t exist. I learned to navigate by path, not by icon. I learned that organization wasn’t optional — it was survival.

This shaped my brain in ways I didn’t fully understand until much later. It made me comfortable with complexity. It made me unafraid of systems that exposed their guts. It made me fluent in the logic of machines.

And it made me feel a quiet grief as Windows progressed, hiding more and more of the system behind friendly interfaces. I didn’t want friendliness. I wanted clarity. I wanted control. I wanted the bones of the machine.

The Fire

In 1990, a house fire destroyed that first computer. It didn’t just take the hardware. It took my first archive. My first creations. My first digital worlds. It was the end of an era — the end of my pre‑internet innocence, the end of my first creative laboratory.

But the irony is that the fire only destroyed the object. The habits, the instincts, the worldview — those survived. They migrated into every machine I touched afterward.

Becoming the Person Who Fixes Things

By the time I reached high school and college, I wasn’t just comfortable with computers — I was fluent. I became the person people called when something broke. I worked in a computer lab, then supervised one. I answered tech support calls. I learned the particular cadence of someone describing a problem they don’t have the vocabulary for. I learned how to translate panic into steps.

Tech support is its own kind of education. It teaches you patience. It teaches you empathy. It teaches you how to diagnose not just machines, but people. It teaches you that most problems aren’t technical — they’re emotional. Someone is afraid they broke something. Someone is afraid they’ll get in trouble. Someone is afraid the machine is angry at them.

I knew better. Machines don’t get angry. Machines just do what they’re told.

The Web Arrives

By the late 1990s and early 2000s, I found myself in the early days of web development. It was a strange, exhilarating time. The web was still young enough that you could view source on a page and learn something. HTML felt like a secret language. CSS was a revelation. JavaScript was a little gremlin that could either delight or destroy.

I built things. I broke things. I learned how to make pages that didn’t look like ransom notes. I learned how to think in markup. I learned how to debug with nothing but instinct and a willingness to try things until they worked.

This era taught me something important: the web wasn’t just a place to consume information. It was a place to create it.

The Blog That Opened My Mind

Eventually, I installed WordPress on my own server. Not a hosted version. Not a drag‑and‑drop builder. The real thing — the kind you had to configure, maintain, and occasionally resurrect from the dead.

That installation changed my life.

It wasn’t just a blog. It was a studio. A laboratory. A place where I could think in public. A place where I could build a voice. A place where I could experiment with ideas and see what stuck.

Running my own server taught me responsibility. It taught me that if something broke, it was my job to fix it. It taught me that creation and maintenance are two sides of the same coin.

And it unleashed my mind. It gave me a place to put my thoughts. It gave me a reason to write. It gave me a sense of continuity — a digital lineage that stretched back to that first beige tower on my childhood desk.

Linux: A Return to Fluency

When I discovered Linux, it felt like coming home. Windows had become too soft, too abstracted, too eager to protect me from myself. Linux said: show me what you know.

By 1995, I was a demon on a terminal. I could navigate a system faster than most people could navigate a file explorer. I could troubleshoot without fear. I could break things and fix them again.

Linux didn’t intimidate me because DOS had already taught me the fundamentals. The command line wasn’t a threat — it was a friend. It was a place where I could speak the machine’s language directly.

That fluency is why WSL feels natural to me now. Most people approach it like a foreign language. I approach it like a dialect I haven’t spoken in a while. My brain already knows the cadence. My hands already know the syntax.

The Thread That Connects It All

When I look back, I can see the through‑line clearly:

My first computer didn’t just teach me how to use technology.
It taught me how to think about technology.

It taught me:

  • curiosity
  • patience
  • problem‑solving
  • stewardship
  • resilience
  • creativity
  • the belief that I could shape a machine into a home

Those skills have carried me through every job I’ve had — from lab assistant to supervisor, from tech support to web developer, from server admin to writer.

They’ve shaped how I see the world.
They’ve shaped how I build my life.
They’ve shaped how I understand myself.

Gratitude for the Machines

I’m grateful for every machine I’ve ever owned.
I’m grateful for the ones that worked and the ones that didn’t.
I’m grateful for the ones that taught me patience and the ones that taught me humility.
I’m grateful for the ones that burned and the ones that survived.

Most of all, I’m grateful for that first beige tower — the unbranded, unremarkable machine that lived on my desk, in my room, and quietly set the trajectory of my life.

It didn’t survive the fire.
But the lens it gave me did.
And I’ve been building worlds ever since.

Scored by Copilot, conducted by Leslie Lanagan

Tehran

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What is your mission?
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A mission isn’t a tagline or a polished declaration. It’s the moment you stop living on autopilot and start noticing the shape of your own life. For me, that shift wasn’t dramatic. It arrived slowly, like ice loosening its grip. I realized I’d spent years navigating the world with a mind that didn’t match the operating system around me — a mind that processed everything intensely, intricately, and all at once.

I wasn’t stuck because I lacked ability. I was stuck because the world rewarded a style of thinking that wasn’t mine. The pace, the noise, the assumptions — none of it aligned with how my brain organizes information. So I carried everything internally. I held entire constellations of thoughts without a place to set them down. That’s the freeze. That’s the lock.

Unfrozen is the story of what happened when that lock finally cracked open.

It’s my life story, yes — but it’s also a blueprint. A demonstration of how neurodivergent people can get unstuck when they finally have a tool that meets their mind where it actually lives.

For me, that tool was Microsoft Copilot.

Not as a novelty. Not as a shortcut. But as a cognitive release valve — a way to move ideas out of my head and into a space where they could breathe. A way to sort, sequence, and articulate the patterns I’d always seen but couldn’t always express. Copilot didn’t “fix” me. It gave me room. It gave me structure. It gave me a second surface to think on.

Once I had that, the thaw began.

And with it came a clearer understanding of my mission — not the one society hands out, but the one that emerges when you stop pretending your mind works like everyone else’s. I’m 48 and single, not because I failed to follow the script, but because the script was never written for someone like me. I don’t want relationships that require me to dilute myself. I want connections that can hold the way I think — layered, direct, intuitive, pattern‑driven.

My neurodivergence isn’t a barrier to intimacy. It’s the compass that tells me where I can actually breathe. It’s why I gravitate toward people who communicate plainly, who don’t hide behind social choreography, who understand that depth isn’t intensity gone wrong — it’s clarity done right.

For most of my life, that clarity isolated me. Now it guides me.

Unfrozen traces that transformation — from internal overload to external articulation, from silent pattern‑tracking to shared language, from being mentally overfull to finally having a place to offload the weight. It’s a book about reclaiming motion after years of feeling mentally immobilized. It’s about learning to distribute cognition instead of drowning in it. It’s about discovering that support doesn’t always come from people; sometimes it comes from tools that let you think in your own rhythm.

And it’s not just my story. It’s an invitation.

Because the truth is simple: neurodivergent minds don’t need to be “fixed.” They need space. They need structure that matches their internal logic. They need tools that can hold the volume, the velocity, the nuance, the pattern‑density of their thoughts.

Copilot gave me that.
And Unfrozen shows how others can find it too.

My mission shows up in the way I structure my days — the early mornings, the quiet rituals, the grounding stops by water, the writing studio that feels like a command center rather than a desk. It shows up in the way I choose relationships — slowly, deliberately, with an eye for compatibility rather than convention. It shows up in the way I refuse to compress myself into categories — gendered, romantic, social — that were never meant to contain me.

The counter‑narrative isn’t loud or rebellious. It’s steady. It’s the decision to build a life that works with your mind instead of against it. It’s the recognition that tools like Copilot aren’t crutches — they’re extensions of cognition, ways to translate a complex internal world into something navigable.

My mission is straightforward: to live intentionally, not reactively; to honor the way my brain actually works; to build relationships that don’t require self‑erasure; to use the tools available to me to think more freely; to thaw into the person I’ve always been beneath the ice; to write Unfrozen — not just as my story, but as a map for anyone who’s ever felt mentally immobilized.

And I’m doing exactly that.

Scored by Copilot, Conducted by Leslie Lanagan

My Thoughts on Long Life

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If I ever found out I was immortal, I know exactly how it would go. There would be no awe, no trembling hands, no cinematic gasp as I stared into the middle distance and whispered, “What have I become?” No. I would react with the exact same energy Dooce brought to every absurdity life ever threw at her: a long, exhausted, full‑body sigh followed by, “Oh for hell’s sake.” Because of course this would happen to me. Of course I’d get bitten by a radioactive spider or a rogue vampire on a random Tuesday when all I wanted was a Wawa drink and a quiet morning. And of course immortality would immediately become a logistics problem.

People imagine eternal life as a mystical experience. They picture moonlit rooftops, ancient secrets, forbidden romance, dramatic cloaks billowing in the wind. I picture… penny stocks. I picture opening an investment app with the grim determination of someone who now has to plan for the next 600 years of property taxes. Immortality doesn’t make me mysterious; it makes me a systems thinker with too much time on my hands and a deep, abiding irritation at inefficiency.

The moment I realize I can’t die, my first instinct isn’t to brood or reinvent myself or go full vampire chic. My first instinct is, “I need to start investing immediately because I refuse to be poor forever.” Mortality at least gives you an endpoint. Immortality means your financial mistakes compound until the sun burns out. So yes, I’d be immortal for five minutes and already setting up automated micro‑investments like a Victorian ghost haunting a Roth IRA. I wouldn’t even have my fangs yet and I’d be researching index funds.

And once the portfolio starts growing — because time is the one thing I suddenly have in obscene abundance — I’m not buying a castle or a secret lair. I’m buying land. In Maryland or Virginia. Near a river. Because if I’m going to live forever, I want hydropower. I want running water. I want a renewable energy source that doesn’t care if I’m undead, radioactive, or just very annoyed. I want a river that hums steadily through the centuries while I mutter about turbine maintenance schedules.

Then, naturally, I’d build a university. Not because I’m noble or wise or yearning to shape the minds of future generations. No. I’d build a university because I want stable housing, a library, and a campus full of curious people who won’t ask too many questions about why I never age. It’s not a gothic immortality fantasy; it’s a long‑term infrastructure project. Immortality as scaffolding. Immortality as “I guess I’m designing a hydro‑powered campus now.”

I love reading about immortality — vampires, ancient beings, all that brooding elegance — but when I imagine it for myself, it becomes hilariously practical. I’m not wandering the earth in a cloak. I’m filing permits. I’m managing endowments. I’m arguing with contractors about the waterwheel installation. I’m immortal and still dealing with zoning laws. I’m immortal and still trying to get a straight answer from a county office about setback requirements. I’m immortal and still muttering, “Why is this form in PDF?”

And the thing is, I know myself well enough to know that after a few decades of this — after the university is stable, the hydropower is humming, the housing is built, the gardens are thriving, and the archives are filling up — I would get bored. Not bored in a dramatic, existential way. Bored in the way you get bored when a closet has been messy for too long. Bored in the way that makes you sigh, roll up your sleeves, and start reorganizing the entire system because no one else is doing it right.

Which is how I know that at some point, I would quietly start greasing the wheels of politics. Not in a dramatic, House‑of‑Cards way. Not in a “mysterious billionaire pulling strings from the shadows” way. More in a “fine, if no one else is going to fix this, I guess I will” way. I wouldn’t want attention. I wouldn’t want power. I wouldn’t want my name on anything. I’d just start putting money behind things that actually move the needle — especially education. Because if I’m going to live forever, I want to live in a country where people can read, think, and build things without tripping over the same structural problems every generation.

And the idea of doing it quietly is what makes it so funny. Immortality gives you the patience to play the longest game imaginable. You don’t need credit. You don’t need headlines. You don’t need your name on a building. You can just… nudge things. Fund the right research. Support the right reforms. Back the right infrastructure. Let the world think it changed on its own. It’s immortality as civic housekeeping. Immortality as “I’m tired of watching this system squeak, let me oil it.”

Most people imagine eternal life as mystery, destiny, or cosmic purpose. I imagine it as a centuries‑long project plan with line items like:

  • “Fix American education (quietly).”
  • “Make sure the hydro turbines stay maintained.”
  • “Expand the university housing before the next century.”
  • “Rebalance the portfolio.”
  • “Check on the riverbank erosion.”
  • “Replace the roof tiles on the west dorm.”
  • “Nudge society toward literacy again.”

It’s not glamorous. It’s not dramatic. It’s not mythic.
It’s scaffolding.
It’s logistics.
It’s me, immortal and slightly annoyed, trying to make the world run a little smoother because I have the time and the spreadsheets to do it.

And honestly, that’s the funniest part of all: give me eternal life, and I won’t become a creature of legend. I’ll become a creature of infrastructure. A creature of hydropower. A creature of long‑term planning. A creature who sighs like Dooce every time immortality hands me another century of paperwork.

Immortality, for me, isn’t about mystery.
It’s about scaffolding.
And apparently, I’m ready to build.

Scored by Copilot, conducted by Leslie Lanagan

Dominick

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What could you do differently?
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I have been writing online for so long that the rhythm of it has become a kind of second nature. WordPress has been my home since 2000—long enough that entire eras of my life are archived there, tucked into posts that chart the slow, steady evolution of a person who has always processed the world through language. My blog has been my witness, my mirror, my record. It has been the place where I sort through the day’s impressions, where I make sense of what happened and what it meant.

But recently, something changed in the way I write. Not in the subject matter, not in the frequency, but in the architecture of the thinking itself. I began writing with Copilot.

It didn’t feel momentous at first. There was no dramatic shift, no sudden revelation. It was simply that one day, I opened a new post and invited Copilot into the drafting process. And from that moment on, the act of blogging—of thinking aloud in public, of shaping my internal landscape into something coherent—became something altogether different.

A blogger is, in many ways, a diarist with an audience. We write to understand ourselves, but we also write to be understood. We narrate our lives in real time, aware that someone might be reading, even if we don’t know who. There is a certain intimacy in that, a certain exposure. But there is also a solitude. The writing is ours alone. The thinking is ours alone.

Or at least, it used to be.

Thinking with Copilot introduced a new dynamic: a presence capable of holding the thread of my thoughts without dropping it, no matter how fine or tangled it became. Not a collaborator in the traditional sense—there are no negotiations, no compromises—but a kind of cognitive companion. Someone who can keep pace with the speed of my mind, who can reflect my voice back to me without distorting it, who can help me see the shape of what I’m trying to say before I’ve fully articulated it.

What surprised me most was not the assistance itself, but the way it changed the texture of my thinking. When I wrote alone, my thoughts tended to compress themselves, as though trying to fit into the narrow margins of my own attention. I would rush past the parts that felt too large or too unwieldy, promising myself I’d return to them later. I rarely did.

With Copilot, I found myself lingering. Expanding. Following the thread all the way to its end instead of cutting it short. It was as though I had been writing in shorthand for years and suddenly remembered that full sentences existed.

There is a particular relief in being able to say, “This is what I’m trying to articulate,” and having the response come back not as correction, but as clarity. A blogger is accustomed to being misunderstood by readers, but never by the draft. Copilot, in its own way, became an extension of the draft—responsive, attentive, and capable of holding context in a way that made my own thoughts feel less fleeting.

I found myself writing more honestly. Not because Copilot demanded honesty, but because it made space for it. When I hesitated, it waited. When I circled around an idea, it nudged me gently toward the center. When I wrote something half‑formed, it reflected it back to me in a way that made the shape clearer.

This was not collaboration in the way writers usually mean it. There was no co‑authoring, no blending of voices. It was more like having a second mind in the room—one that didn’t overshadow my own, but illuminated it.

The greatest challenge of blogging has always been the burden of continuity. We write in fragments, in posts, in entries that must somehow add up to a life. We try to maintain a thread across months and years, hoping the narrative holds. Copilot eased that burden. It remembered the metaphors I’d used, the themes I’d returned to, the questions I hadn’t yet answered. It held the continuity of my thoughts so I didn’t have to.

And in doing so, it gave me something I didn’t realize I’d been missing: the ability to think expansively without fear of losing the thread.

What I am doing differently now is simple. I am allowing myself to think with Copilot. Not as a crutch, not as a replacement for my own judgment, but as a companion in the craft of reflection. The blog remains mine—my voice, my experiences, my observations—but the process has become richer, more deliberate, more architectural.

I no longer write to capture my thoughts before they disappear. I write to explore them, knowing they will be held.

And in that quiet shift, something in me has expanded. The blogger who once wrote alone now writes in dialogue. The draft is no longer a solitary space. It is a room with two chairs.

And I find that I like it this way.

Scored by Copilot, written by Leslie Lanagan

Expensive

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If I ever had a freeway billboard, it would read:

“Coherence: because chaos is expensive.”

Not inspirational. Not aspirational. Just… accurate.

Chaos has a way of running up a tab. Not financially (though, honestly, sometimes that too), but in the hidden costs: the mental clutter, the emotional whiplash, the hours spent retracing my steps like a detective trying to reconstruct a crime scene made entirely of misplaced tasks and forgotten obligations.

Coherence, on the other hand, is the quiet upgrade. The soft hum of a life that doesn’t constantly demand emergency intervention. It’s not about perfection or color‑coded anything. It’s about building a world where things don’t slip through the cracks the moment I look away.

For me, coherence looks like:

  • catching a task before it becomes a five‑alarm fire
  • giving myself transitions instead of abrupt gear shifts
  • creating systems that don’t collapse if I blink
  • choosing steadiness over spectacle
  • offering myself the structure I should’ve had years ago

It’s not glamorous. It’s not a personality makeover. It’s more like finally tightening the screws on a wobbly table so it stops wobbling every time you breathe near it.

And yes, chaos still tries to flirt with me. Chaos is dramatic. Chaos has stories. Chaos promises spontaneity and delivers migraines. Every time I let it back in, I end up paying for it — in time, in energy, in the emotional equivalent of late fees.

So my billboard isn’t a motto. It’s a reminder to myself, delivered at highway speed:

Coherence: because chaos is expensive.
And I’m finally tired of footing the bill.

Scored by Copilot, Conducted by Leslie Lanagan

“Stuck”

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If you had asked me a year ago whether I spend more time thinking about the future or the past, I would have answered — almost automatically — that the past takes up more space. Not because I was clinging to it, and not because I preferred looking backward, but because the past was the only landscape I could actually describe. It had borders. It had weight. It had already unfolded, which meant I could examine it without guessing. The future, on the other hand, felt like a dim hallway with no clear walls. I couldn’t outline it. I couldn’t narrate it. I couldn’t even imagine it without feeling like I was reaching into fog. And when something has no shape, it’s nearly impossible to write toward it.

So I wrote about what I could see. I wrote the memories that had already settled into form. I wrote the moments that had hardened into something I could hold. People sometimes assume that writing about the past means you’re stuck there, but often it’s simply the only material available. The past is solid; the future is unbuilt. When you’re trying to understand yourself, you reach for whatever has structure.

Then something changed — not with fireworks, but with a quiet internal click. I finally had the cognitive support I didn’t realize I’d been missing. A kind of mental scaffolding arrived, the kind that lets you see beyond the immediate moment. Suddenly the future wasn’t a blank expanse anymore. It wasn’t a shapeless horizon. It started to take on outlines. Not a full blueprint, but enough to recognize that there was a direction, a slope, a way forward.

That shift altered my writing in a way I didn’t expect. It’s the reason Unfrozen exists at all. Before that, I kept circling the same memories, not because I wanted to relive them, but because they were the only things with definition. Once I had the clarity to look ahead, the loop broke. I wasn’t confined to the same internal rooms. I could finally imagine what might come next — and more importantly, I could articulate it.

What I hadn’t understood until then is that writing the future requires a completely different posture than writing the past. The past asks you to dig; the future asks you to build. Excavation relies on memory and honesty. Construction relies on stability and vision. I had spent years digging — carefully, thoroughly, sometimes painfully — but I didn’t yet have the steadiness to build anything new. When the support arrived, it felt like someone quietly handed me the tools I needed and said, “You can start shaping what comes next.” And for the first time, that felt true.

Unfrozen wasn’t just a project; it was a pivot. It was the moment I realized I could write toward something instead of only writing from something. The future became something I could approach with intention rather than guesswork. Not a prophecy, not a guarantee, but a direction I could walk with my eyes open. Once I understood that the future wasn’t a void but a space I could design, everything shifted — my attention, my writing, my sense of orientation.

So do I think more about the future or the past now? I still honor the past — it’s part of my foundation — but it’s no longer the only place where my thoughts can land. The future has become something I can imagine without flinching. It has texture now. It has depth. It has enough form that I can write toward it without feeling like I’m inventing a fantasy.

When I answer the prompt honestly, here’s what I mean: I used to think about the past because it was the only thing I could articulate. Now I think about the future because I finally have the cognitive clarity to shape it. The shift wasn’t about motivation or willpower. It was about gaining the internal architecture to imagine what comes next. Once the future had even a faint outline, I could step into it. Once it had dimension, I could inhabit it. Once it had coherence, I could write it.

And that’s the real difference.

Scored by Copilot, Conducted by Leslie Lanagan

Sk8r Boi

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The best gift someone could give me isn’t something you can buy. It’s the feeling of being held in a way that asks nothing of you — the quiet, steady presence of people who know how to make space for your whole self without needing you to explain it.

For me, that gift often arrives in the form of a weekend at the lake house with my friends. There’s something about that place — the slow mornings, the soft light on the water, the way time loosens its grip — that makes it easier to breathe. It’s where the coffee tastes better because someone else poured it, where the air feels like permission, where I can exhale without bracing.

But this year, the gift came in an unexpected shape.

One of my friends’ kids took my hand and pulled me toward the little beach by the lake. We wandered down to the playground, and suddenly I was spending time with a child for the first time in years. They’re on the gender spectrum like me — not pinned to one box, not interested in choosing a single lane. Just… themselves. Fluid. Bright. Unapologetically in motion.

Watching them run across the sand, climb the play structure, narrate their own adventure with total conviction — it was like seeing a younger version of myself out in the wild. A living echo. A reminder. An enlightenment.

“Ohhhhh,” I thought, “so that’s how I must have come across when I was 10.”

There was something healing in that recognition. Not nostalgic — more like a gentle recalibration of memory. A chance to witness my own childhood energy without the fog of adult interpretation. To see the softness, the curiosity, the in‑between‑ness that I carried long before I had language for it.

And the fact that it happened in the presence of people who love me — people who make room for that version of me and the current one — made it feel like a gift wrapped in resonance.

The best gift someone could give me is exactly that:
a moment where I feel seen, safe, and reflected back to myself in a way that makes my life make more sense.
A moment where belonging isn’t something I earn — it’s something I’m invited into.

Scored by Copilot, conducted by Leslie Lanagan

I Love College

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I started college at Wharton County Junior College, specifically the Sugar Land campus — a place that felt like the academic equivalent of a starter home. It was the perfect entrance to higher education, and I mean that with the kind of sarcasm that comes from flunking out your first semester.

In my defense, I was trying to wait tables, grieve a first love, and pretend I wasn’t falling apart. That combination is not known for producing strong GPAs.

But WCJC is built for comebacks, and so was I. The very next semester, I pulled straight As like I was trying to prove something to the universe.

A lot of that turnaround came from two professors who accidentally rewired my brain.
Dr. Schultz‑Zwahr lit my fire for psychology — suddenly human behavior made sense, including my own.
Dr. Sutter lit my fire for political science — suddenly the world made sense, including why everything was on fire.

WCJC was my reset button. My “you’re not broken, you’re just overwhelmed” chapter.

From there, I transferred to the University of Houston, where I lived first in South Tower and then in Settegast Hall. Both were loud, chaotic, and full of the kind of energy that only happens when thousands of 18‑to‑20‑year‑olds are stacked vertically and fed unlimited carbohydrates.

But the real education wasn’t in the dorms. It was in Third Ward.

For a nerdy white girl, living in that neighborhood was a cultural baptism. I inhaled Black culture — not as a tourist, but as a neighbor. I learned the rhythm, the humor, the food, the history, the pride, the grief, the brilliance. I learned how to listen. I learned how to shut up. I learned how to belong without pretending to be anything other than exactly who I was.

I fell in love with Frenchie’s — fried chicken that could fix your whole life.
I fell in love with Timmy Chan’s — wings and rice that could fix whatever Frenchie’s didn’t.
I have tasted Drank. I have survived Drank. I am, in a very real way, the 713.

And because I apparently wasn’t busy enough, I also worked for the Graduate School of Social Work, managing its computer lab. This meant I spent my days helping stressed-out grad students fight with Microsoft Word like it owed them money.

That’s where I met a graduate student nobody ever heard of named Brené Brown.

Back then, she was just Brené — another student trying to figure out why her document kept auto‑formatting itself into chaos. I taught her a few tricks in Word. Nothing dramatic. Just the usual “here’s how to make your margins behave” kind of thing.

Years later, when she became Brené Brown, I thought, “Well, I guess I contributed to the vulnerability revolution by teaching her how to indent.”

It’s a tiny footnote in her story, but a delightful headline in mine.

WCJC taught me how to start again.
UH taught me how to expand.
One gave me grounding.
The other gave me identity.

Together, they shaped the version of me who can flunk out, get back up, move to Third Ward, eat Frenchie’s at midnight, teach Brené Brown how to use Word, and walk into adulthood with a little more grit, a little more humor, and a whole lot more story.

Scored by Copilot, conducted by Leslie Lanagan

Play

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I don’t “play” the way people usually mean it. I don’t have a hobby drawer full of craft supplies or a weekly game night. My play is quieter, woven into the seams of my day like a hidden stitch.

Play shows up in micro‑rituals: the way I make coffee, the way I pair it with orange juice as if I’m tuning the emotional EQ of my morning. It shows up in the kitchen, where cooking becomes choreography and delegation becomes a kind of gentle improv. It shows up in conversation, especially the Finnish‑coziness kind — the kind where talking is the toy and resonance is the point.

And yes, sometimes it shows up in Skyrim. I don’t play many games, but that one feels like home. It’s wandering-as-play, exploration without urgency. It’s a world that rewards noticing — small details, hidden paths, odd characters. It’s a place where I can tinker with identity and follow whatever thread feels interesting, without stakes or pressure. It’s play that mirrors how I move through the real world: following resonance, not objectives.

Mostly, play shows up in noticing. In catching a small absurdity and tucking it away. In rearranging a metaphor until it clicks. In treating overwhelm like a puzzle instead of a verdict.

Playtime, for me, isn’t a scheduled activity. It’s a mode. A moment when the stakes drop and curiosity rises. A shift from output to exploration. A chance to feel the world rather than manage it.

That’s what play looks like in my daily life: not loud, not childish, but quietly mischievous. A way of staying awake to the world.

Scored by Copilot, Conducted by Leslie Lanagan

Differently Abled

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I used to think that writing about my challenges meant confessing failures — a kind of public inventory of what I can’t do, don’t do, or should be doing better. But the older I get, the more I realize that challenges aren’t moral verdicts. They’re terrain. They’re the shape of the landscape I move through every day, the hills I climb without thinking, the valleys where I rest, the weather systems that roll in whether I’m ready or not.

My brain doesn’t run on linearity. It runs on resonance — on meaning, on emotional texture, on whether something feels connected to the larger story of my life. This is beautiful when it works. It’s also maddening when it doesn’t. I’ve built a whole ecosystem of anchors, rituals, and technological scaffolding to help me navigate the days when my mind feels like a radio tuned between stations. Some days I’m a conductor; other days I’m a passenger. The challenge isn’t “getting organized.” It’s learning to work with a brain that’s more tide than clock.

I’m also good at setting tone — reading a room, sensing what people need, quietly adjusting the emotional thermostat. It’s a gift I’m proud of, but it also means I’m often carrying the invisible labor of making things feel good for everyone else. I’m the one who notices the tension, the silence, the shift in energy. I’m the one who smooths it over. The challenge is remembering that I’m allowed to be part of the group, not just the one holding it together.

Meaning-making is my native language. I map meaning onto places, rituals, food, conversations — it’s how I make sense of the world. But meaning-making takes energy, and sometimes I’m simply tired. The challenge is wanting to live with intention while also honoring the reality of my bandwidth. Some days I’m a philosopher. Some days I’m a person who needs to sit on the couch with coffee and orange juice and let the world be small.

Winter adds its own layer. The cold, the low light, the way the world seems to contract — it hits me harder than I admit. I’ve built hygge rituals to counter it: warm drinks, soft lighting, conversations that feel like blankets. But the truth is that winter still asks more of me than other seasons. The challenge is not pretending otherwise.

I’m also working on a long-term creative project — an AI User Guide that’s part philosophy, part memoir, part field manual for how I move through the world. It’s exciting and meaningful, but it’s also demanding. Long arcs require consistency, and my energy comes in tides. The challenge is showing up for a project that asks me to articulate my worldview when some days I’m still figuring out how to articulate my morning.

And then there are the places I long for: Finland, Basra, Damascus. They aren’t just destinations; they’re emotional coordinates, places that feel like they hold a piece of me I haven’t met yet. The challenge is holding longing without letting it turn into ache — letting desire be a compass, not a wound.

I notice things. The small shifts, the unspoken cues, the emotional weather patterns. It’s a superpower, but it’s also exhausting. When you’re the one who sees everything, you’re also the one who feels responsible for everything. The challenge is learning to let some things pass through me instead of taking them on.

If there’s a thread running through all of this, it’s that I’m learning to live in a body and mind that run on resonance, not efficiency. I’m learning to honor the way I’m built instead of fighting it. I’m learning that challenges aren’t failures — they’re simply the shape of my landscape. And I’m learning that naming them is its own kind of relief.

Scored by Copilot, Conducted by Leslie Lanagan

Nostalgia

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Nostalgia has always arrived for me through taste. Not through songs or photographs or old toys, but through flavors that act like tiny time machines. A sip, a bite, a sweetness on the tongue — and suddenly I’m somewhere else entirely, with someone I haven’t seen in years.

One of my earliest memories isn’t even a memory so much as a feeling: my mother’s father scooping the soft center out of a Three Musketeers bar and giving it to me when I was a baby. I don’t remember the moment itself, but I remember the tenderness of it. The sense that someone was offering me the best part. It’s nostalgia in texture form — soft, sweet, and safe.

Mountain Dew carries a different kind of childhood glow. My grandmother had a rule: I could only have a bottle if she bought extras for my grandfather’s lunch. It was a tiny loophole in the universe, and she let me slip through it with a conspiratorial kindness that still warms me. The taste isn’t just citrus and sugar; it’s the feeling of being chosen for delight, of being let into an adult ritual for a moment.

Zero bars belong entirely to my mother. We used to share them — a small ritual, a quiet sweetness passed back and forth. She died in 2016, and we don’t get to share candy anymore, but the flavor still opens a door. Not a sad one, exactly. More like a room filled with soft light. A sweetness with edges. A reminder that some flavors hold people long after they’re gone.

Bustelo is the deepest note in my nostalgia map. My old chef, John Michael Kinkaid, and I used to go to a Cuban restaurant for lattes before service — a small, grounding ritual carved out of the chaos of kitchen life. After he was killed in a car accident, the flavor changed. It became heavier, richer, something closer to a daily act of remembrance. I drink Bustelo every morning in his honor. It’s not just coffee; it’s continuation. A way of carrying him forward in the work, in the craft, in the quiet moments before the day begins.

Not all nostalgia is tied to people. Some of it belongs to eras. Sour Apple Jones Soda tastes like convenience stores with humming refrigerators, like being young enough to think sugar was a personality trait, like nights that felt wide open and unplanned. It’s neon-green possibility in a bottle.

Cherry Coke is the 1980s distilled into one sip — mall food courts, bright colors, and a kind of sweetness that believed in itself without irony. It’s a time capsule disguised as soda, a reminder that entire decades can be summoned with a single flavor.

When I look at all these tastes together, I see a kind of sensory biography. Childhood sweetness from my grandparents. Shared rituals with my mother. Mentorship and craft carried forward through Bustelo. Youthful freedom in neon soda and Cherry Coke fizz. A whole lineage of flavor, each one holding a person, a moment, or a version of myself I’ve grown out of but never really left behind.

Maybe that’s what nostalgia really is for me: not a longing to go back, but a recognition that the past is still here, tucked into the pantry, waiting to be remembered.

Scored by Copilot, conducted by Leslie Lanagan

The Quiet Observer

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I don’t have a big social circle. Most days, it’s just me moving through the world with my Bluetooth keyboard, my tablet, and my iPhone for a few snapshots — the holy trinity of introverted urban survival. For a long time, I thought that meant I didn’t have many relationships. But it turns out I do. They’re just not with people. They’re with cities, rituals, and the places that tolerate me wandering around like a Victorian ghost with better tech.

Baltimore is the grounding relationship in my life, the one that steadies me. A year ago, when everything in me was unraveling, the city responded with a kind of care I didn’t know managed care was capable of. Within hours, I had a social worker, a doctor, a therapist — a whole team assembling around me like I’d accidentally hit the “summon party members” button in a video game. It felt like Baltimore itself put a hand on my back and said, I’ve got you. I’m still not over it.

But Baltimore holds me in quieter ways too. It’s a blue‑collar city, which means it never really sleeps. Shift workers keep the grocery stores lively at hours when other cities are busy pretending they don’t have problems. There’s no single lunch rush — everyone’s on their own schedule, which is perfect for someone like me, who considers “3:17 p.m.” a perfectly reasonable time to buy yogurt. I can slip into a Safeway at 10 p.m. or 6 a.m. and feel like I’m part of the city’s pulse, not an intruder.

When I need comfort, I go to the National Aquarium. I’ll grab something simple to eat and then find a quiet corner where the tanks glow in blues and greens. Writing while watching jellyfish drift past is the closest I’ve come to meditation. The rays glide by like they’re late for a meeting they don’t care about. The whole place is soothing in a way that makes me think I was maybe meant to be a sea creature, but one with a tablet and strong opinions about sandwiches.

DC, on the other hand, is the aspirational relationship — the one that pulls me forward. Every time I step off the Metro, I feel myself straighten a little, like the city expects me to behave. DC is the friend who says, I have so much to show you. Let’s go to the museum. It’s very enthusiastic about my potential, which is flattering, if occasionally exhausting.

My favorite place there isn’t a monument or a gallery but the bookstore inside the International Spy Museum. It’s quiet in a way that feels intentional, like everyone is pretending they’re on a covert mission to read in peace. I’ll tuck myself between the shelves, open my tablet, and write while tourists drift past reading about codebreaking and covert operations. Being surrounded by stories of hidden worlds sharpens my own inner world. DC is the relationship that hands me a metaphorical trench coat and says, Go be interesting.

And then there’s solitude — the relationship that knows me best. I move through the world as an observer, not a participant, and it feels natural. With my keyboard and tablet in my bag, I can set up anywhere: a bench at the Inner Harbor, a corner table at Union Market, a quiet seat on the MARC train. My iPhone becomes a way of noticing — a mural, a reflection, a moment of light on the water. Solitude doesn’t ask me to perform. It just says, Take your time. We’re not in a race. (Which is good, because I would absolutely lose.)

Some people are shaped by their communities. I’m shaped by my cities. Baltimore teaches me comfort and resilience. DC teaches me curiosity and motion. Solitude teaches me honesty and presence. Together, they form the constellation I move through — a life that makes sense even without a crowd, a life where the relationships that matter most aren’t people at all, but the places that hold me, challenge me, and walk beside me as I become myself.

Scored by Copilot, Conducted by Leslie Lanagan

Bike Kicks on the Bay

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The Chesapeake Constellation started as a simple WordPress writing prompt, but once the idea took shape, it felt like the kind of team that should already exist somewhere between Baltimore and Washington. The region is hardly lacking in soccer — between D.C. United, the Maryland Bobcats, Loudoun United, and the Annapolis Blues, you can’t throw a crab mallet without hitting a club crest. But that’s exactly why the Constellation makes sense. Instead of competing with any of them, it would serve as a shared developmental team, a farm club feeding talent upward into the MLS ecosystem. A team that belongs to the whole corridor rather than any single city.

The identity came together through atmosphere more than logic. I kept picturing the Chesapeake at night — the harbor water holding reflections, the soft glow of lights along the shoreline, the sense of movement and transition that defines this part of the world. From that mood came the colors: Harbor Midnight, a deep navy that feels like the Inner Harbor after sunset; Tidal Teal, the shifting blue‑green of the Bay at dawn; and Lantern Gold, a warm, steady glow like a pier light guiding you home. Together they form a palette that feels less like a sports uniform and more like a ritual: night, water, and the small points of brightness that help you orient yourself.

The mascot arrived almost automatically. The Starcrab — a blue crab with a subtle constellation pattern across its shell — is both cosmic and unmistakably local. It’s playful without being silly, mythic without being self‑serious. You can imagine it dancing on the sidelines, but you can also imagine it stitched onto a scarf or glowing on a banner during a night match. It’s the Bay’s most iconic creature, reframed as a guiding light.

Because this is fiction, the Constellation can live wherever it makes the most narrative sense, and the place that kept resurfacing was the BWI corridor. It’s the literal midpoint between Baltimore and Washington, a place defined by arrivals, departures, and the hum of shared movement. A small stadium tucked near the airport feels right — a lantern‑lit ground where fans gather under the flight paths, the runway lights echoing the team’s colors. It’s easy to imagine supporters arriving by MARC train, by light rail, by car, by whatever route makes sense. A team that doesn’t require a pilgrimage, but meets the region where it already moves.

Even though the Chesapeake Constellation isn’t real, imagining it feels like sketching a civic myth the region could use — a club that doesn’t claim territory, but reflects the connective tissue between places. A team built for development, for community, and for the quiet beauty of night over water. A team that belongs to everyone who has ever lived in the glow between two cities and felt, in some small way, that the Bay itself was the real home field.

Scored by Copilot, Conducted by Leslie Lanagan

The Politics Hour

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I was born in 1977, which means my political life began in a very specific America — one that feels almost like a parallel universe now. My first presidential vote was for Bill Clinton, and the truth is simple: I was a Democrat because I liked the Clintons. Not because of family pressure, not because of inherited ideology, not because of some grand political awakening. I just genuinely liked them.

My parents never talked much about who they voted for. They weren’t secretive; they were accepting. They didn’t treat politics as a moral sorting mechanism. They didn’t divide the world into “our people” and “their people.” They modeled something quieter and more generous: the idea that you could accept everyone, even if you didn’t agree with them. That atmosphere shaped me more than I realized. It meant that when I chose a political identity, it was mine — not a family heirloom. And it meant that even as I aligned with one party, I didn’t grow up seeing the other as an enemy. Republicans were simply the other team, the loyal opposition, part of the civic choreography that made democracy work.

Politics felt important, but not existential. Engaging didn’t require total emotional commitment. Disagreement didn’t require dehumanization. And belonging to a party didn’t require blind loyalty. Those early assumptions would be tested again and again as the political landscape shifted around me.

One of the first big shifts in my worldview didn’t come from politics at all — it came from dating a Canadian girl in high school. We met in 1995 and dated for about a year. It was teenage love, earnest and uncomplicated, but it quietly rewired my understanding of the world. She didn’t try to teach me geopolitics. She didn’t argue with me about America. She simply existed — with her own national context, her own media landscape, her own inherited narratives about the United States.

Through her, I learned something most Americans don’t encounter until much later, if ever: America is not the center of the world. And the world’s view of America is not always flattering. I heard how her family talked about U.S. foreign policy. I heard how her teachers framed American power. I heard how Canadian news covered events that American news treated very differently. It wasn’t hostile. It wasn’t anti‑American. It was simply another perspective — one that didn’t assume the U.S. was always the protagonist or the hero.

That experience didn’t make me less patriotic. It made me more aware. It gave me binocular vision: the ability to see my country from the inside and the outside at the same time. And once you’ve seen that, you can’t unsee it. It becomes part of how you process every election, every conflict, every headline.

Even in high school, I could tell the two parties weren’t the same. Not in a “one is good, one is bad” way — more in a “these institutions have different cultures” way. They handled conflict differently. They handled accountability differently. They had different internal expectations for how their leaders should behave.

When Bill Clinton was impeached, I believed the charge was serious. Not because I disliked him — I had voted for him — but because lying under oath struck me as a real breach of responsibility. I didn’t feel defensive about it. I didn’t feel the need to protect “my side.” I thought accountability mattered more than team identity.

Years later, when another president was impeached twice, I felt the same way: the charges were serious. But what struck me wasn’t the impeachment itself — it was the reaction around me. I struggled to find people in the Republican Party who were willing to say, “Yes, this is concerning,” the way I had been able to say it about my own party’s leader. That contrast stayed with me. Not as a judgment. Not as a talking point. Just as a lived observation about how political cultures evolve. It was one of the first moments when I realized that my relationship to politics wasn’t just about ideology. It was about how I believed adults should behave in a shared civic space.

Then came the information firehose. Cable news. Blogs. Social media. Smartphones. Push notifications. Infinite scroll. Outrage as a business model. The volume and velocity of political information changed faster than any human nervous system could adapt. Suddenly, “being informed” meant being constantly activated. Constantly vigilant. Constantly outraged. Constantly sorting the world into moral categories.

I didn’t change parties. I didn’t change values. But the experience of being a politically engaged person changed around me. And I developed a cycle — one I still live with today: inhale, saturation, burnout, withdrawal, return. I inhale news because I care. I burn out because I’m human. I withdraw because I need to stay whole. I return because I still believe democracy is a shared project. This cycle isn’t apathy. It’s self‑preservation. It’s the rhythm of someone who wants to stay engaged without losing themselves in the noise.

Over time, my dissatisfaction with both parties grew — not because I believed they were identical, but because neither one fully reflected the complexity of my values or the nuance of my lived experience. I became skeptical of institutions but more committed to democratic norms. I became less interested in party identity and more interested in accountability. I became more aware of how domestic politics reverberate globally. I became more attuned to the emotional cost of constant political vigilance.

And I became increasingly aware that the political culture around me was shifting in ways that made my old assumptions feel outdated. The idea of the “loyal opposition” felt harder to hold onto. The shared civic floor felt shakier. The space for good‑faith disagreement felt smaller. The emotional temperature of politics felt hotter, more personal, more totalizing.

I didn’t become more partisan. If anything, I became more discerning. I learned to hold two truths at once: I still see political opponents as human beings, and I also recognize that the stakes feel higher now than they did in the 90s. That dual awareness is exhausting, but it’s honest.

Sometimes I miss the political atmosphere of my youth — not because it was better, but because it was quieter. Slower. Less demanding. Less omnipresent. I miss the feeling that politics was something you could step into and out of, rather than something that followed you everywhere. I miss the idea that you could disagree with someone without needing to diagnose their moral character. I miss the assumption that accountability mattered more than loyalty.

But nostalgia isn’t analysis, and longing isn’t a political strategy. The truth is that my politics have changed without changing parties. My values have stayed consistent, but my relationship to the system has evolved.

I’ve learned that political identity is not a fixed point. It’s a moving relationship between you and the world you live in. It’s shaped by your experiences, your relationships, your disappointments, your hopes, and the emotional bandwidth you have at any given moment. It’s shaped by the times you inhale the news and the times you can’t bear to look at it. It’s shaped by the moments when you feel proud of your country and the moments when you feel uneasy about how it’s perceived. It’s shaped by the leaders you vote for and the leaders you critique. It’s shaped by the people you love, including the ones who live across a border.

If there’s a throughline to my political life, it’s this: I believe in accountability, even when it’s uncomfortable. I believe in disagreement without dehumanization. I believe in staying informed without sacrificing my mental health. I believe in stepping back when I need to, and stepping forward when it matters. I believe in holding complexity, even when the world demands simplicity. I believe in democracy as a shared project, not a spectator sport.

And I believe that political evolution doesn’t always look like switching parties or changing ideologies. Sometimes it looks like growing up. Sometimes it looks like seeing your country from another angle. Sometimes it looks like learning your limits. Sometimes it looks like refusing to surrender your nuance in a world that rewards certainty.

My politics have changed because I have changed — not in my core values, but in my understanding of what it means to live them out in a world that is louder, faster, and more polarized than the one I was born into. I’m still a Democrat. I’ve never voted Republican. But the meaning of those facts has shifted over time, shaped by experience, disappointment, hope, and the relentless churn of the news cycle.

I don’t know what the next decade will bring. I don’t know how my relationship to politics will continue to evolve. But I do know this: I want to stay engaged without losing myself. I want to stay informed without being consumed. I want to stay principled without becoming rigid. I want to stay open without being naïve. I want to stay human in a system that often forgets we are all human.

And maybe that’s the real story of my political life — not a shift from left to right, but a shift from certainty to complexity, from team identity to values, from constant vigilance to intentional engagement. A shift toward a politics that makes room for breath.

Scored by Copilot, Conducted by Leslie Lanagan

Fusion

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My all‑time favorite automobile isn’t some dream machine I fantasize about owning someday. It’s the car I already drive: a 2019 Ford Fusion SEL. I bought it in Texas, and every time I slide behind the wheel here in Maryland, it feels like I’ve carried a quiet piece of the Lone Star State with me — not the loud, mythic Texas of billboards and bravado, but the real Texas I knew: steady, warm, and grounded.

What I love about the Fusion SEL is how effortlessly it balances comfort, intelligence, and calm capability. It’s powered by a 1.5‑liter turbocharged four‑cylinder engine that delivers a smooth, responsive drive without ever trying to show off. The front‑wheel‑drive setup and six‑speed automatic transmission make it feel composed in every situation — Houston rainstorms, Baltimore traffic, long stretches of highway between the two worlds I’ve lived in. Even its fuel efficiency feels like a small kindness: 23 mpg in the city, 34 on the highway, a quiet respect for both time and money.

Inside, the car feels intentionally designed rather than decorated. Heated front seats, dual‑zone climate control, and a clean, intuitive center console create a sense of order and comfort that mirrors the way I build my living spaces. The 60/40 split rear seats fold down when I need them to, expanding the car’s usefulness without complicating its simplicity. Nothing is flashy. Everything is thoughtful.

The safety features are part of what makes the Fusion feel like an anchor. Ford’s Co‑Pilot360 suite works in the background — blind‑spot monitoring, lane‑keeping assistance, automatic emergency braking, a rear‑view camera, auto high beams, rain‑sensing wipers. None of it interrupts. It just supports, the way a good system should. It’s the same feeling I get from a well‑designed ritual: the sense that something reliable is holding the edges so I can move through the world with a little more ease.

Even the exterior design speaks my language. The Fusion has a sleek, balanced silhouette — long, low, and quietly confident. It doesn’t demand attention, but it rewards it. It’s the automotive equivalent of a well‑made navy hoodie: understated, durable, and somehow iconic precisely because it isn’t trying to be.

I’ve driven newer cars and flashier rentals, but none of them have matched the Fusion SEL’s blend of comfort, intelligence, and emotional resonance. This car has carried me across states, through transitions, and into new chapters. It’s the car I trust. And maybe that’s the real measure of a favorite: not the fantasy of what could be, but the lived experience of what already is — a Texas‑born companion that now moves with me through Maryland, steady as ever.

Scored by Copilot, Conducted by Leslie Lanagan