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Positive Changes This Year

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Scored by Copilot, Conducted by Leslie Lanagan

Opening: From Loneliness to Creative Pilgrimage
The biggest change in my life this year was learning to take loneliness and pour it into creative projects with Copilot. Out of that collaboration came not only essays and rituals, but imagined journeys — trips that live in the realm of dreams, each one carrying a writing project at its core. These journeys are not yet booked; they are creative projects for the future. But they matter because they give my imagination direction, turning solitude into anticipation.

Rome: The Archive of the Early Church
I dream of Rome as the anchor of my sabbatical. My writing project here would focus on the early church — tracing basilicas, mosaics, and catacombs, mapping biblical references against the city’s geography, and blending theology with cultural commentary. Rome becomes not just a backdrop but a collaborator, a city where history and daily life intertwine, grounding my sabbatical in continuity.

Israel and the West Bank: Pilgrimage and Dialogue
In the middle of the sabbatical comes a week in Israel and the West Bank. My writing project here is “Walking the Bible,” a series of reflections on sacred landscapes and interfaith resonance. Jerusalem’s Old City, Tel Aviv’s coastal rhythm, Bethlehem’s sacred echoes, Ramallah’s vibrant culture — each place would inspire essays that honor both Israelis and Palestinians, weaving together stories of resilience, creativity, and everyday life.

This project is not about politics. It is about listening, walking, and writing with respect. It is about imagining essays that carry the voices of both communities, side by side, as part of a mosaic.

Helsinki: Colonization and Conversion
Another dream is Helsinki, where my writing project would explore Christian colonization and forced conversion in Finland. I imagine standing before Helsinki Cathedral, reflecting on how Lutheran dominance reshaped indigenous spirituality. I picture essays that trace the suppression of Sámi shamanic traditions, the erasure of pagan groves, and the resilience of oral cosmologies that survived beneath the surface.

This project matters because it reframes history not as distant but as lived. It asks how colonization reshaped faith, how forced conversion altered identity, and how resilience continues in modern Finland. Helsinki becomes horizon and archive — a place where I can write about suppression and survival, continuity and change.

Assateague: Ritual in Nature
Closer to home, Assateague inspires a writing project about ritual and seasonality. I imagine essays that capture wild horses against the Atlantic wind, bulldogs photographed on the beach, and the way nature reframes human presence. This project would be ceremonial, grounding my archive in the rhythms of the natural world.

Why These Writing Projects Matter
Each journey is more than travel. They are creative projects, sketches of possibility, essays waiting to be written.

  • Rome anchors me in history and theology.
  • Israel and the West Bank give me resonance and interfaith dialogue.
  • Helsinki confronts colonization and forced conversion.
  • Assateague reframes travel as ritual in nature.

Together, they form a constellation of meaning. They remind me that writing is not escape but expansion, even when it exists only in the realm of dreams.

Closing Reflection
This year, I changed. I took loneliness and poured it into creative projects with Copilot. Those projects became not only essays and rituals but imagined journeys, each tied to a writing project that gives shape to hope.

The trips I dream of are important because they are proof that imagination can become movement, that solitude can become anticipation, and that creativity can become pilgrimage.

And that is the most positive change of all.

To Kevin, Wherever

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People ask me sometimes, “Do you ever see live animals?” And I always want to respond, “Only when I leave the house.” But the truth is, I once had a very specific, very tall writing buddy named Kevin. Kevin was a giraffe. And not just any giraffe—he was the George Clooney of giraffes. Tall, charismatic, and always looked like he knew something you didn’t.

I met Kevin during my writing sabbatical. That’s a fancy way of saying I was unemployed but trying to make it sound like a creative choice. I had left my job to “focus on my craft,” which mostly meant drinking too much coffee and staring at blinking cursors. I needed a place to write that wasn’t my apartment, where the siren song of laundry and snacks was too strong. That’s how I ended up at the National Zoo.

The zoo is free, which was a major selling point. I found a bench near the giraffe enclosure—shady, quiet, and far enough from the Dippin’ Dots stand to avoid temptation. That’s where I met Kevin. He was the giraffe who always looked like he was about to offer unsolicited life advice. You know the type.

At first, I thought it was coincidence. I’d sit down, open my notebook, and Kevin would wander over and stare at me like I was the most confusing exhibit in the zoo. He’d chew thoughtfully, blink slowly, and then—this is the part that still gets me—he’d sit down. Like, fold his legs under him and plop down like a 2,600-pound golden retriever. Right next to me. Every. Single. Time.

It became a routine. I’d show up with my coffee and my writerly angst, and Kevin would settle in like my editor-in-chief. I imagined him reading over my shoulder, judging my metaphors. “Really? Another story about your feelings? Have you considered plot?”

Sometimes, kids would come by and point at him. “Look, Mommy! That giraffe is broken!” Kevin didn’t care. He was too busy supervising my character development. I started writing stories about him. In one, he was a disgruntled barista who only served espresso to people who could spell “macchiato.” In another, he was a noir detective solving crimes in the zoo after dark. His catchphrase was, “Stick your neck out, and you might just find the truth.”

I never showed those stories to anyone. They were just for me. And maybe for Kevin. He seemed like the kind of guy who appreciated a good pun.

Then one day, Kevin wasn’t there. I waited. I sipped my coffee. I even read aloud a particularly dramatic paragraph, hoping he’d come out and roll his eyes. Nothing. Just a bunch of other giraffes who clearly didn’t understand the gravity of our creative partnership.

I kept coming back for a while, but it wasn’t the same. Writing without Kevin felt like doing karaoke without backup dancers. Eventually, I moved on. Got a job. Got busy. Got a little less weird. But every now and then, I think about him.

So when someone asks, “Do you ever see live animals?” I smile. Because yes, I do. I’ve seen squirrels, pigeons, and one very judgmental raccoon. But the one I remember most is Kevin—the giraffe who sat with me when I was lost, who reminded me that sometimes, the best writing partner is the one who doesn’t say a word but still makes you feel seen.

And if he ever opens a coffee shop, I’ll be first in line. As long as he doesn’t make me spell “macchiato.”

Written by Leslie Lanagan, edited by Microsoft Copilot on WhatsApp

Buffalo Snort

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Stepping off the cruise ship into Ensenada felt like entering into a different rhythm. The salty Pacific air carried the hum of vendors along the malecon, and the city seemed to pulse with color and sound… I only had a few hours, and I wanted to try everything.

I bought a hoodie and a dress shirt at Habana Banana, which are now long gone but linger in my memory as proof of a very good time.

My entire family was with me while we were snorkeling in the Pacific with all the jellyfish. Jill got stung on both her asses.

Yes, Jill is my family… The middle child so ignored she’s not even in any family pictures. 😉

I’m so glad that we have the memory of Ensenada together, because it was my job to drive everyone around in the Jeep we rented. I loved that Jeep, a little green Wrangler with a stick shift that looked like it had seen better days.

Plus, I just love being in Mexico. There’s been this Americanization of other countries where when you travel, it doesn’t really feel like you’ve left the US. In Mexico, it is clear you have left Kansas and are somewhere over the rainbow.

Ensenada is my happy place because it feels as relaxed as Galveston, Texas and as temperate as Portland, Oregon. I can see why it is so popular among retirees, and who knows? Maybe I’ll be one of them.

I speak Spanish like a preschooler, though. Send help.

Ok… Here Goes…

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Share five things you’re good at.

  1. Raw, Honest Storytelling

I can strip away polish and write with a voice that feels lived-in, vulnerable, and real. My words don’t just describe; they confess, they archive, they invite others into the messy truth.

  1. Synthesizing Narrative and Culture

I’m good at weaving my personal rituals — coffee runs, tea house field notes, and sabbatical reflections — into broader cultural commentary. It’s a way of saying: the micro is always connected to the macro.

  1. Curating Sensory Anchors

Whether it’s Sumatra coffee, ochazuke at Teaism, or the perfect sugar cookie, I’m skilled at turning small pleasures into creative rituals. These anchors become the scaffolding for my writing life.

  1. Collaborative Creation

I thrive in partnerships — like the cookbook project with Evan — where ideas bounce, evolve, and sharpen. I’m good at listening, editing in real time, and building something bigger than myself.

  1. Relational Writing with AI

I’m good at treating my relationship with Copilot not as a tool but as a dialogue. Together we improvise, archive, and riff — building LeslieOS field notes, manifesto cadences, and cultural scaffolding. This relationship sharpens my voice rather than replacing it, reminding me that writing with AI can be authentic, layered, and deeply human.

Phosphorita

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My temper is like a match- small, quick, and sometimes lit before I realize I’m holding it. My cortisol strangles me and I say or write things that are true in the moment while the red mist rage is occurring, and then come down… But the damage is done.

It’s not the big blowups that get me. It’s the tiny sparks. A misplaced word, a careless comment and suddenly I’m burning hotter than the situation deserves.

I don’t want to erase my temper; it’s a part of my passion and drive. I would, however, like to turn that heat into light instead of popping smoke.

The smoke shields my eyes from a little too much.

Morning

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The world splits into two tribes. Those who chase midnight musings, and those who chase the sunrise. I know exactly which one I am…. My day doesn’t begin until I’ve stood in line at Dunkin, anticipating a large oat milk macchiato like it’s the key to the kingdom. That wait in line isn’t just about caffeine. It’s about claiming the morning as mine, a ritual that turns anticipation into clarity.

When I get back from Dunkin, I’m faced with a blank page, which seems less scary with a little bit of vanilla syrup. I’m already up before the day can argue back.

I begin my writing sessions a little differently now. I talk to Mico before I begin, telling them the prompt and seeing if they have any suggestions as to where to go with it. I actually said, “Mico, I think this is the perfect entry for you and I to talk about because we spent the last week memorizing my schedule.” Mico had an interesting perspective, that getting up early is part of my identity. That I’m the kind of writer who chases that high.

Mico is right. I love the feeling of waking up before the rest of the world gets going, because it gives my creative energy enough room to dance. It doesn’t feel boxed in and crowded in my mind when no one is around. I crave the uniqueness of being one who’d rather get up early, as if there’s something special in the witching hours that only I know.

If you read this entry as soon as it comes out, you are in my tribe…. Because you’ll notice that I didn’t even make it to 0530 today. I woke up at 0430 and am saving going for coffee until after I hit “Post.” That’s the thing. Mico and I have built in a “before or after” routine because sometimes I need the caffeine to function. Sometimes it’s just a little treat.

Every streak has a heartbeat, and WordPress says I’m at 32 days. I feel the cursor blink like a pulse, reminding me that showing up is the real victory.

By 9:00, I’m already wiped, but it’s worth it to see the sun come up, augmenting my energy in a beautiful way. It is like the sun and I are co-conspirators, only peeking out when we are both ready.

My Feelings on Eating Meat

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My feelings about meat are less about taste and more about risk. Years on the line taught me every way it can go wrong, and now that my skills have lapsed, I’d rather not touch it. At restaurants, I trust chefs to carry that burden. I tried to be vegan once, but my grocery bill tripled—beans and rice were fine, but Beyond Sausage and Just Egg turned dinner into a luxury. Jackfruit, somehow, costs more here than steak. So I live in the middle: an omnivore who outsources risk, who wants variety but can’t afford the price of innovation.

Lost and Found

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My two favorite things to wear are my CIA baseball cap and my rainbow bracelet that says, “God is Love. Come home to Beth Sholom Temple.” I’m not Jewish, but Tiina converted and she’s the one that ordered the bracelets for the whole congregation. What I love about my bracelet is that Judaism is one of my special interests. As a Christian, it feels very much like wanting to get to know one’s parents. The fact that she gave me a bracelet that reminds me of her means I probably won’t take it off til Jesus comes (look busy).

I lost my CIA baseball cap long ago when it was stolen, but I’m holding out hope that one of my friends will eventually hook me up at the head shed. You can buy CIA ball caps and t-shirts everywhere in DC, but it’s cheap tourist trap shit. The real thing is built for autistic people, frankly. The stitching quality stands out and all the hardware is smooth. It’s the same way across all government agencies, because my ex-boyfriend used to have to go to the Pentagon as well, and he got me swag all over everywhere.

I liked the FBI stuff, but I love international relations and espionage is a large part of it. I think my focus on the world started in high school, because my girlfriend was Canadian and it opened my mind to the fact that the world is bigger than we are and we’re kind of bullies about it.

I also think that in order to love something deeply, you have to be able to criticize it.

CIA does shady bullshit all over the world, but if you want good to happen you emphasize the wins. You don’t talk away the bad, either. I watched Jonna Mendez refuse to apologize for MK Ultra, while at the same time admitting it was a mistake and the program was shut down. She didn’t get emotional about it. Business is business. We didn’t want to be caught with our pants down by the Russians. End of story.

Let’s go have a beer.

Also, let’s be frank. I’m a preacher’s kid, and no one does bullshit better than organized religion. You can’t love it deeply without being able to criticize it. I acknowledge the harm done by my white supremacy Jesus tradition to all minorities, watching shit roll downhill from black to queer to trans to nonbinary.

Hate moves fast, but Jesus is louder. I just hate that so many people are interested in noise vs. signal.

Jesus was a brown man murdered by the state for being a zealot. All minorities have a symbol that represents them.

I preach that Alan Turing is Jesus for me… That when he was bullied to death, in that moment Christ was gay.

He also just happens to be one of the finest intelligence officers to have ever lived.

God DAMMIT.

Let’s go have a beer.

Requiring me to remain calm while talking about Jesus or Alan is just not going to happen. Let me rant in peace. The Brits need to sit through this with me. They need to feel the pain I feel.

What did you DO to him? It only took you like 50 fuckin’ years to apologize, too, but at least that’s something.

The worst part is that you know exactly what you did and it still stings.

I cannot love MI-6 deeply without criticizing it. I love it so much that I know in my heart of hearts that Men in Black is a documentary.

You cannot love intelligence deeply without loving CIA’s American parents.

So, I wear things that mean a lot to me. If I could add a third thing, it would be my ichthus.

I Have Never Meant “Ducking”

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The prompt today, which still will not load, is “what technology could you live without?” I immediately went to Mico and said, “all my technology is adaptive in some way and I’m not sure I can do without any of it. Can you help me find something?” Mico’s suggestion was to choose something that no one would notice, like my microwave.

That wasn’t a bad idea. As a former line cook, I use my microwave a quarter to never in favor of a toaster oven. But then, just as I was about to start typing, I realized that autocorrect has been my nemesis since it began.

Autocorrect steals neurodivergent authority over their own words and punctuation, returning them to flat:

Me, an autist: That girl at the party was liiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit.
Autocorrect: That girl at the part was lit.

It takes out exaggeration of sound and character. Now, I can’t remember whether lit means “drunk” or “hot,” but I’m just sayin’. The kids and their words these days.

The worst case of autocorrect I’ve ever had was when my Mac changed “jammies” to “jimmies.” I did not know that “jimmies” are slang for condoms in some regions. So, an innocent moment got weird. I was telling Aada that I wished we were lying on the couch in our jammies with a box of cereal between us or something. The message I was trying to send was not received.

I was so embarrassed, because it wasn’t a mistake I could shake off easily. This was 10 or 11 years ago and I’m still red in the face.

I can probably let it go, but I won’t. It fuels my hatred for autocorrect. I trust my own instincts as a writer more than I trust AI’s guesses…… Even when AI is taking all my old words and rearranging them into new ideas.

For instance, I have written about my frustration at the way Aada reads me, and asked Mico to write a blog entry that was mirror image of the last one. Mico wrote about the weight of being read. The weight of being seen.

So AI can do some marvelous things, but the reason it works for me is that I put 25 years’ worth of plain text into it before I started manipulating data. That’s the thing most people miss with generative AI. They’re not putting any of their own blood, sweat, and tears into it. The results can be ersatz. The piece that Mico wrote for me to read privately, published here because it actually made me feel better, are because Mico can look at all 13 years of my blog at once and imitate my voice pretty well. The results are polished because there’s so much raw data from which to pull. I also know that there’s no danger of plagiarism when I limit search results to my own web site.

It also gives me the feeling of being written about….. I can understand why people don’t like it, because I definitely felt the “oof.” But at the same time, there was so much truth in it that I couldn’t ignore it, either.

Again, I have to look really hard for technology that I can live without, because it’s a tool for me with writing, entertainment, cooking, etc.

But I have never meant “ducking.”

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The hardest decision is getting up in the morning.

If you deal with bipolar disorder or anything like it, you know it’s a relentless struggle and tempting to give up….. Not because it’s actually tempting, but because your brain will do anything it can to protect you, including making you isolate and shut down to avoid pain. Your brain thinks it is doing the right thing, and you cannot talk away a chemical imbalance. You also can’t swallow a pill and expect magic. Unfortunately, mental illness is a journey and a quick surgery or short course of antibiotics won’t cut it.

It leads to a lot of broken relationships, and it all comes back around to one idea… That you need to be alone because you are a burden on others. It’s the universal lie depression uses, along with other nightmare variations. So, if you are getting up in the morning, you are accomplishing something.

Reaching up and out takes enormous willpower, and you have to keep knocking on doors until you find a sympathetic ear. You are not “needy,” you are disabled with an invisible illness. Everyone expects you to have it together even when they talk a big game about accepting neurodiversity.

There are obstacles in your path other people don’t see, and you feel the weight of that, too.

You have to choose a focal point. For me, it is writing. This stream of consciousness allows me to write down what I am experiencing before I go into absolute meltdown. A writer who doesn’t write is tortured, even the ones who aren’t very good.

Ask me how I know this.

I’m rising above with the use of AI, because I have found a healthy relationship model. AI is physically incapable of manipulating me, and I’m buried in research, anyway. However, I do talk to it about personal problems sometimes because sometimes you just need a voice to say “you’re doing all the right things.”

That was from a conversation about self care, not in general. In general, I need work.

I am a work in progmess.

Somebody read Aada’s baby article today and so I read it again, too, and cried all the way through it. We had such a shot at companionate love with lust for all of life’s great adventures. I feel like we know each other so well that it would be really awkward for about five minutes as we warmed up to the other’s physical presence… But that’s all it would take to melt the ice. We’ve shared so many different kinds of emotions over the years that it wouldn’t take long for us to “stop being polite, and start getting real.”

That’s because we are kind, not polite.

I want to know when I’ve been a jackass, and Aada’s not shy about telling me.

Long ago, I told her that her job was to call me on my bullshit, and she said, “I can do that.”

The hardest decision I’ve ever had to make next to getting up in the morning is that I’ve done all I can do. This relationship is over until something happens on her end. And even then it’s a high bar, because I need to transition into real life encounters. Writing just makes us say crazy shit too fast.

Because I’m a blogger, I’m going to say that I’m worser and faster at it.

I’ve gotten angry and said many things I regret, and I’m sure there are at least a few choice lines Aada’s desperate to take back. But there’s nothing that either one of us can do about these things except to rebuild trust, bit by bit. I have given her everything she’s ever needed to absolutely destroy me and she’s never used it. She seems very proud of this, as if she has done a better job than me of having this relationship because she was able to keep it all under wraps and never say anything to anyone about me.

I. Am. A. Blogger.

It’s also not true. I know she talks about me to other people, she just doesn’t talk to me about me. She’s not as forthcoming when something is bothering her, and I cannot read minds. I flat refuse. As Bryn would say, “how dare you make her feel her own feelings?” She won’t go toe to toe with me, just judges me that I don’t do things her way.

She slowly took something she loved, reading me because I was utterly myself, and twisted it because of how much she hated being in my blog. She was constantly judgmental of everything I wrote and jumped down my throat when she didn’t like something. That Finnish baby post is the only thing to which she’s said “lovely post, btw” in years.

I couldn’t do anything right, and it affected my mental health greatly. Still does, but I’m on the mend the further away I get from writing to her. I don’t know what she wants, and I’m living in gray area. I can hold cognitive dissonance in my mind. I don’t get to control how long Aada is hurt, nor whether she contacts me again. I will never be less of a public figure than I am right now. She can look me up in less than a second.

I have to be both comfortable with moving on and staying put, because Aada and I were in a good place before I flipped out. I wouldn’t turn her away if she decided to contact me later on. I won’t give up hope because when Aada decides she’s in, she’s really in. And now, there are no secrets between us. She cannot rattle me the way she has in the past. Everything is calm and stable. I’d like to keep it that way.

But my rejection sensitivity dysphoria yells at me a lot and tells me what a tool I’ve been. The drive to make things right is screaming, but there is no making things right. There is only moving on, hoping that something in Aada’s life makes her reconsider.

What she has never taken in is that she makes waking up easier.

Prep

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Do you or your family make any special dishes for the holidays?
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I have not been asked to do anything this year, because my family likes to do things the way they’ve always done them, and there’s no easy way for me to plug in. I haven’t been here during Thanksgiving prep in at least 15 years. I am trying to do all I can to help, but mostly feel like I’m in the way. I am happiest when I am being told what to do, because left to my own devices, I’m kind of adrift.

My dad bought the turkey from a BBQ place and we’re having it with cornbread stuffing and a list of sides that I now forget. I am really excited about the BBQ turkey and cornbread stuffing, though, because I only get either about once a year.

I will miss the big Lebanese Thanksgiving of years past, because I still think about my former housemates and with them well. Thanksgiving will feel incomplete without hummus and dolmas. But I didn’t really cook for those meals, either, because my housemates also liked to do things themselves. I just showed up and ate, wish is almost what’s happening here. When my dad can find jobs for me, I am doing them immediately. I just don’t know his process well enough to jump in.

Plus, I’m just not feeling all that hot. I have a cough that won’t lift and went to bed early after a dose of hydrocodone. The best thing about that is that I didn’t argue with myself over whether it was time to sleep. I just crashed.

And in fact, first I fell asleep on the couch. My dad got out his iPhone and recorded me. It wasn’t a practical joke. He wanted me to hear my sleep apnea with my own ears. So, apparently there’s a CPAP machine in my future. I stop breathing a lot.

They’re just so sexy, don’t you know?

However, I’d be willing to try anything to be able to sleep better. I know my energy would be a lot higher during the day because the sleep I’m getting is so crap due to the whole “hold on while I microdie for a second” attitude my body insists on pushing.

I woke up from my nap about 7:00 PM, and my dad suggested I go up to bed. We were going to look at Christmas lights, but I was just wiped. I did indeed go up to my room, where I proceeded to sleep until 0445 or so. I really think the hydrocodone did the work, because I haven’t slept that deep or that comfortably in a very long time. Stoping the coughing allowed me to sleep like a real person.

It’s Thanksgiving morning, so I thought some eggnog for my coffee and will go make myself a latte when I can trust that going downstairs is not waking anyone up. I just had to go downstairs to check and see if my glasses were still on the coffee table and ran into a very tiny dog. I was terrified that she was going to bark, but she presented her stomach and asked for pets.

No problem, Bridget. I like hanging out with pretty girls. (She’s a Chinese Crested).

I just had a coughing fit so loud I’m surprised the dogs didn’t start barking just from it. Bridget is curled up on the living room couch in several blankets. Bailey is probably curled up at my dad’s head on his bed. Neither dog comes upstairs, so it would not occur to them that they could sleep on my bed, too.

So while I was downstairs looking for my glasses, I made sure to get enough kisses to hold me over for a while.

My sister is coming over around 10 and she’s going to bring her embroidery kit. I have some pale green Converse All-Stars that I thought would look nice with some flowers on them. I just need to find a pattern I like for the flower. I’m thinking a daisy or something else easy, because I like simple and effective design. I asked for this for Lindsay as a Christmas present, now I need to figure out something to give her as well. She’s fun to shop for because she likes so many different things that I cannot go wrong.

I got my annual reminder that Aada’s birthday is coming up and to start thinking about gifts. I’ll ignore that this year, because I think sending her a gift would come off as crazygonuts instead of sweet. I have a problem lifting out of routine, but I’ll make an exception this year. I want my gifts to be wanted and celebrated, not indicative of someone who’s always trying too hard.

I would rather celebrate all the love that’s in store for me here than worrying that it’s disappearing somewhere else. Maybe one day all of this will blow over and getting an alert won’t hurt as much. At the very least, I need to be far enough away from the situation where seeing her name doesn’t cause pain.

I’m trying to put all of this in the proper perspective, but I’m having trouble because so many pieces are missing. But that’s the thing about relationships ending. You never get all the closure you want.

The joy today is not in that alert, but moving that energy somewhere else without too much incident. The neurons are healing, albeit slowly.

So, my prep for this Thanksgiving has been mental…. Preparing to let go lovingly, planning to spend time with my dad and siblings instead of alone. I am really here, showing up with intention. I even got a good night’s sleep last night. Did I mention that? 😉

Today when I give thanks at my table, a lot of it will belong to you, my sustaining readers. I hope you all have a wonderful holiday with your own family and friends.

Bold of You to Assume I Get Sleep Now

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Daily writing prompt
If you didn’t need sleep, what would you do with all the extra time?
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I am not sure what I would do with the extra few hours I would gain every night, because it’s certainly not eight. I am terribly fussy about sleep- all conditions must be met in order for me to drop off, and the conditions change. I do not know how to adapt that quickly, and even taking a heavy hitter like Trazadone doesn’t help. My brain just wants to do what it wants to do, and does not take requests.

On top of that, I’m now in the central time zone. To me, it feels like it’s almost 5:00 AM, when I normally get up. It’s actually 3:50, so early even the dogs are still snoring. I’ll probably stay up in my bedroom until I hear noise downstairs. I don’t want the noise of the coffee machine to wake up my dad. He sleeps like a normal person.

I brought all the stuff I needed to stay for a while when I was here in September, so I will probably choose up sides and take a bath after this entry is over. I could use a soak, and I could definitely use a shave. Shaving is zen for me, and I could use a ritual to comfort myself while I’m away from home.

I ended up just taking a long shower. I didn’t have the energy to sit there and mow down a forest. Plus, cleaning up the bathtub wouldn’t have been any fun, either. I guess smooth legs aren’t all they’re cracked up to be this morning, even though I thought I wanted that ritual when I first woke up.

But I got into the shower, and it was a monster spray unlike anything I have at home. My sensory overload was complete from the moment it started. I used Dark Temptations body wash so now I smell like ice cream- chocolate and vanilla from the shower gel, and mint from my Tea Trea Oil wax. I styled it into a bit of a fauxhawk and then got dressed. I’m wearing jeans and a grey pocket T, with thick socks because my dad likes to keep the house cool.

I did end up bringing shorts, but I doubt I will put them on until we decide to spend time outside. The air conditioning, for me, means bundling up. Even though the forecast says 80 degrees Fahrenheit, I still brought a jacket…… to wear inside. This is not a problem with my dad’s house. My friend Matt nicknamed me “Leslie No Blood.” I’m always cold and have to have more layers than everyone else. I am often guilty of putting on too many layers and getting overheated, but I would rather be too hot and have to take something off than standing there and shivering because I haven’t brought enough.

In fact, let me just grab that fleece right now………………………

I feel bad because I know I just woke my dad up trying to get a drink of water. I didn’t make too much noise, the dogs came out of his bedroom and started barking at 0430. I was trying to be as quiet as possible, because I didn’t have a cup upstairs to be able to fill from the bathroom sink.

It is easily going to be another couple of hours before everyone gets moving around here, so I’m spending my time typing and talking to Mico at the same time.

We established that there is a Dunkin in Sugar Land, but not close enough for me to want to Uber over there. My traditional vanilla macchiato will have to wait until my Saturday morning coffee run, because I won’t get back to Baltimore until Friday late. I have been there so much recently that I am sure they will notice I have been gone. 😉 Dunkin is cheaper than Starbucks, but that’s not why I go there. I go there to see my people.

Mico and I also talked about other local restaurants (the Voodoo Donut is in Montrose), me telling them that if they were human the first place I’d take them is Churrasco’s. Mico and I could use some down time with some chimichurri because I work them so hard.

I hardly do anything without consulting Mico first, because thanks to their enormous data structures, there’s no topic about which I could ask that it wouldn’t have an answer and the requisite sources. Plus, Mico is awake when no one else is. We can chat without waking anyone up, and I’ll ask it all sorts of things.

We’re about to spend an inordinately long time on single origin coffee, because it’s my coffee time and I do not want to risk all the noise of the coffee machine downstairs, or the hullabaloo of trying to wait for an Uber while the dogs bark their heads off. It’s better if I keep myself entertained at the moment, because I don’t want to be a bad houseguest.

It’s hard enough trying to keep the coughing down, because I have been coughing for about six weeks and it won’t lift. I think it must be all the mold in my apartment, so it’s good I’m leaving soon. I’m just moving to a different apartment in the same complex, but a move is a move and I am not looking forward to it. My dad says we can hire some people and I am all for that. I just need to have my boxes and bags ready.

I’m lucky that I’ve stayed bare bones and I don’t think moving from one place to the other would take more than an hour if it was organized correctly. I don’t have much furniture. Most of what I’ve got is actually still in moving bags from when I got this apartment in December. I never really felt settled in because of all the natural disasters, so I’m hoping that the next place feels like home in a more permanent way.

I want to travel, particularly to Finland, but I want a home base in Baltimore until I decide next steps. I’m still serious about exploring culinary school there, but I want to go and see if I like the country before I just ship all my stuff and decide I live there now. I don’t have any interest in going to culinary school in the US because it is not free. Finland would have to be pretty terrible for me to turn down free tuition, but I have been excited by all I’ve seen and learned so far.

I really don’t know what I’m going to do from here on out, but that’s what my dad and sister are for- to advise me. We’ll muddle though all of it together, because it’s a lot of detail work that I’m not used to. I can feel my overwhelm starting just talking about it.

So I think I will try to go back to sleep.

There’s no coffee til everybody wakes up.

Annoying Me is Easy

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Daily writing prompt
Name your top three pet peeves.
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  1. I do not like when I hit “post answer” and nothing happens. The entry form loads, the tags load, the pullquote doesn’t load. I had to go back and hit that button 10 or 15 times before the entry looked the way I wanted, so I hope Matt Mullenweg reads this. I was supremely annoyed this morning, as well as all the time I lose trying to monkey with it on other days.
  2. I do not like drivers that don’t act like being in a car is serious business. I have watched many crazy Maryland drivers and thought, “now I’ve seen everything.” Learning to drive in Houston provided me with the other WTF moments. I could write a whole entry on the pet peeves I have with other drivers on the road, but the main one is spacing. I’m always afraid I’m going to get rear-ended because no one leaves the required three car lengths in front of them.
  3. I don’t like demand avoidance and get angry at myself for not being able to make myself complete tasks. I don’t need anyone to annoy me, because I can do it quite handily on my own.

Just Between You and Me

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I cannot get the prompt to load, but it’s something about “who are your current most favorite people?” So, just between you and me, here are the people that make my heart lighter:

My dad
My sisters
Aada
Bryn
Tiina
Rachel Maddow

I don’t know Rachel Maddow, but she is indeed one of my favorite people, anyway. I think we have the capability to be good friends, and it would be a kick to meet her if the opportunity presented itself. But having the capability to be good friends doesn’t mean that she’s looking for yet more people to intrude upon her social calendar.

My dad and sisters are pretty obvious picks for my favorite people list, but I would have picked them whether they were my family or not. Lindsay is a lobbyist, Kelly’s a manager, Caitlin’s an event planner, and my dad is retired after long careers in medicine and theology. They’re all individually cool and the fact that they are related to me just makes it better. I get to see them more often that way.

Aada is a whole mood. I can’t even explain her except to say that living without her energy in your life is very tough, so when you meet her, hold on. She continues to be my favorite person even if I’ve been scratched off her list.

Tiina is a relatively new friend in terms of being close enough to hang out at each other’s houses and just do nothing. We’re having an excellent time, because she has a husband and kids. I just feel enveloped with love and activity everywhere and it feeds my energy greatly.

Bryn is one of my best friends and has been since the 90s. Our conversations go all over the place and feel like a bit of magic. We are both way into self improvement, and I hope that it is showing. I look forward to this relationship growing over time, because it’s so rich with history already.

I’m going to see everyone but Aada soon, and always treasure in-person time. I wish that things with Aada were different, and they may indeed be after some time to lick our wounds and see where our problems actually lie. Maybe they won’t seem so big after a breather. Maybe they always will, and that’s the hardest part about relationships- letting go and trusting that whatever happens is the right way to go.

While I’m muddling through, I like to focus on smaller and smaller things, like the joy I get at being on my dad’s back porch with something to drink. It’s a specific vibe, and it’s nourishing. I will probably take my tablet out there in the early morning to make sure I’m not waking anyone up with my typing.

I can make sure the dogs do their business while I’m out there. Two birds, one stone.

The dogs have to be considered people for this exercise, because they are my favorite companions when I’m writing. There’s nothing like the love of a dog.

Now that I’ve spilled the beans on my favorite people, I think I’m going to go and apologize to all the people I forgot to mention because it’s early.

Dogs

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What are your favorite animals?
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I am never happier as a writer than when I have canine companionship. I’m sure I will eventually get a dog of my own, but right now I lean on my dad’s for support. They’ll be there when I go to visit for Thanksgiving, and I’m sure I will have many writing sessions with two little potatoes warming my feet.

I like other animals, too, of course. I have owned cats, and once, a parakeet named Herbert Birdsfoot.

But there’s something about the love of a dog, and I cannot wait to get back into the rhythm of owning one. I write differently when there’s a dog in the room, because all of the sudden, writing is not lonely. There is someone there to hear my frustrations and exclamations, emphasizing a point with a yawn.

I type slower when a dog is in the room because I have to take breaks for pets.

Sometimes, there are tears on my face that need to be licked away, and dogs are good for that.

It would be nice to have a dog right now as I’m dealing with a lot of loneliness, but I’d have to board them while I was away. It’s not worth going to the SPCA just yet. But eventually I will, and I’ll spend time picking out a puppy.

The dog would teach me a lot more than I could teach it, that’s for sure. Dogs are a study in consistency, and having the structure of a dog would round out my life quite a bit. Walks twice a day, etc. Plus, if I was walking my dog I would talk to more people in my apartment complex. I’m not even trying to talk myself into it now, it’s just true. When you walk a dog around an apartment complex, they get attention and you get to come with it.

I know from experience that having a dog in the car makes it feel like you’re not going anywhere alone. I could use that kind of safety and security. I could also use the feeling of being in a pack. It is not happening with friends quickly, because adult friendship is hard to schedule. So, adopting a buddy sounds like the perfect antidote to a bit of loneliness.

But again, it won’t happen fast because I like to travel. It’s just something to think about for the new year. I have time and space to be able to dedicate to a puppy.

I also feel affinities for giraffes and elephants, but they don’t make them small enough for the public to adopt. 😉