I think someone who has so many red flags of their own has no room to say what red flags they will or will not accept. I hurt one of my best friends because I was angry in a moment, and have regretted hurting her ever since. My red flag is impulse control, because I was not the loving friend I needed to be at the moment she needed it. The feelings of regret this has stirred has made me reticent to say that there’s anything about anyone that I don’t like in other people because people have to tolerate so many red flags with me that I cannot predict.
I’m not going to sit here and pick apart others when my energy is best served by thinking about what kind of person I want to be, developing coping mechanisms for anger so that lack of impulse control isn’t dangerous.
That’s the thing about red flags…… you can’t change a single one unless it’s yours.
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