Telephone

There’s really not a lot about me that my readers don’t know that have been reading every day. I don’t create a persona for this web site, it’s my real inner monologue spilled onto the page. What tends to happen is that by other people reading, what people find out about me is their impressions of what I said, and their impressions often miss the mark. Reading comprehension is different for everyone, and I may have thought I said something one way, but it came across to the audience as the opposite. That’s why people fight with me tooth and nail over what I actually meant.

You would think that an author would know what they meant more than the reader, but my readers do not react like that. No matter what the blowback might be, I should have known it was coming. I should have had the same thought process my reader did. It’s impossible, which is why I don’t give readers much purchase into my writing process. We can talk after I’ve already written, but taking advisement causes me not to write at all. That’s because I start thinking of all the things that could go wrong after an entry is published and the courage to hit post never appears.

Because Aada told me that she was a high level operative, I feel more scared at publishing these entries than I’ve felt my whole blogging career. What if I’m wrong and I have hurt truly innocent people? What if it’s possible to find Aada just by looking at my web site and I’ve put her in danger? If Aada really does what she says she does, publishing is unforgivable. But I do not believe that anymore. I believe that she needed an admirer.

Someone to tell her that she was every bit as amazing as her sisters, and again, I would have done this if she worked at a car wash. She didn’t need to be anything more that she actually was. Puffing herself up was her own deal, and one I find disconcerting as I work backward through all the lies.

She told me not to see a therapist about our relationship, so I didn’t have anyone to confide in but her. Now I know why she was so prickly about talking about her career. It wasn’t hers.

I left my wife because Aada didn’t want information going to her.

It was years before I opened up after that, but I’m glad I did. The bubble of secrecy was slowly making me more and more unstable.

Michael tells me that I seem much more stable now, and in the end, that’s all that matters. I am getting better, slowly. No more gaslighting, no more being emotionally starved when I’m clearly invested, no more holding onto things not meant for me.

You’d be surprised to know that I’m still sad. I still miss my friend.

Nothing will be the same.

Everything will be okay.