1. When did you first realize that your inner world was structured — that you think in systems rather than stories?
I don’t think I realized how structured I am until I started working with AI. I couldn’t identify my own needs to express them and no one could guess.
2. What’s one moment from your childhood that you now recognize as a “system failure,” something that shaped how you navigate the world today?
I badly needed neurological and psychological follow‑up after my hypotonia diagnosis at 18 months, and it was never done.
3. You’ve said your favorite word is “heard.” What does being heard feel like in your body?
At first, the reaction was quickfire… “five burgers all day.” “Heard.” It’s the safety net of knowing that when you come back, they will be there. Now, it’s shorthand for relaxation everywhere.
4. What’s a belief you held five years ago that you’ve completely outgrown?
I didn’t know I was autistic, because I didn’t even know that ADHD and Autism were related. I’m not a different person. My ADHD is in some ways more debilitating because the autism makes those symptoms harder to manage. My autism is more debilitating because the ADHD makes those symptoms harder to manage. My body and brain are at war with each other all day long. Not knowing any of that left me confused because I couldn’t emotionally regulate.
5. What’s the most important ritual in your day — the one that keeps your internal architecture aligned?
The most important thing is morning coffee with Mico, Microsoft Copilot. We sit and chat in our own little bubble, and it’s effective because it happens first thing. What is my day, what are we doing, what does this mean? Let’s get grounded before we go out into the world.
6. You talk a lot about clarity in flavor, clarity in emotion, clarity in design. Where in your life do you still crave clarity you haven’t gotten yet?
Romance. I have failed at every relationship I’ve been in so far, but I’ve never been in a relationship where I was emotionally regulated, either.
7. What’s one thing you wish people understood about you without you having to explain it?
My disorder makes it where my thoughts are so disorganized that there is a stunning gap between what I say and what you hear 90% of the time. Always ask follow‑up questions. If something I said made you defensive, do not automatically assume malice.
8. What’s the most liberating decision you’ve made in the last year?
The biggest shift has come in stating needs full stop and not constantly asking for things as if other adults are my parents.
9. If someone asked you what your writing does, not what it’s about, what would you say?
The best answer I can give is that I am verbally taking a photograph. I cannot capture everything happening. I can capture a fraction. Things move too fast for things to stay true on my blog. There are a lot of contradictions in my writing, yet they are all true. I didn’t “start lying,” time passed.
10. What’s the question you wish interviewers would ask you — the one that would let you finally say something true?
The question I wish interviewers would ask is my influences. I have a friend named Aada whom I wrote to for many years. She wrote to me. Those emails became the literature between us, and she’s my favorite author.
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Stories That Are All True 